CUATRO TIPOS DE AMOR:
La lengua griega distingue al menos cuatro formas diferentes de cómo se utiliza la palabra amor. Escritor griego antiguo s tiene cuatro palabras distintas para el amor: ágape, eros, filia y storge. Sin embargo, al igual que con otros idiomas, ha sido históricamente difícil separar los significados de estas palabras cuando se utiliza fuera de sus respectivos contextos. Sin embargo, los sentidos en los que se utilizan generalmente estas palabras son como sigue:
• Agape (ἀγάπη AGAPE) significa el amor en un sentido "espiritual". En el agapo plazo, lo que significa "Te amo" en griego antiguo, a menudo se refiere a un afecto general o sentido más profundo de "verdadero amor incondicional" en lugar de la atracción sugerido por "eros". Este amor es desinteresado; da y no espera nada a cambio. Agape se utiliza en el pasaje bíblico conocido como el "capítulo del amor", 1 Corintios 13, y se describe allí y en todo el Nuevo Testamento como el amor fraternal, el afecto, la buena voluntad, el amor y la benevolencia. [2] Si el amor dado es devuelto o no, la persona sigue amando (incluso sin ningún beneficio propio). Agape también se utiliza en los textos antiguos para referirse a los sentimientos de los niños de uno y los sentimientos de su cónyuge, y también se utiliza para referirse a una fiesta de amor. [2] También puede ser descrito como la sensación de estar contenido o la celebración de una en alta estima. Agape es utilizado por los cristianos para expresar el amor incondicional de Dios por sus hijos. Este tipo de amor se explica con más detalle por Tomás de Aquino como "querer el bien del otro."
. Éros (ἔρως Eros) es el amor apasionado "física", con el deseo sensual y anhelo. Romántico, emoción pura y sin el equilibrio de la lógica. "Amor a primera vista". La palabra griega moderna "erotas" significa "amor íntimo." También se puede aplicar a las relaciones de pareja, así como el matrimonio. Platón refinó su propia definición: Aunque eros se siente inicialmente por una persona, con la contemplación se convierte en una apreciación de la belleza dentro de esa persona, o incluso se convierte en la apreciación de la belleza misma. Platón no habla de la atracción física como una parte necesaria del amor, de ahí el uso de la palabra platónico en el sentido de, "sin la atracción física." Los amantes y los filósofos están inspirados a buscar la verdad a través de los medios de eros.
• Philia (philía φιλία) es el amor "mental". Significa relación afectuosa amistad o en griego antiguo y moderno. Este tipo de amor tiene un toma y daca. Es un amor virtuoso desapasionado, un concepto desarrollado por Aristóteles. En su obra más conocida en la ética, philiais expresado de diversas maneras como la lealtad a los amigos, la familia y la comunidad, y requiere virtud, la igualdad, y la familiaridad. Por otra parte, en las mismas philos texto denota un tipo general del amor, que se utiliza para el amor entre la familia, entre amigos, el deseo o el disfrute de una actividad, así como entre los amantes.
• Storge (Storgé στοργή) significa "afecto" en griego antiguo y moderno. Es el afecto natural, como el que sienten los padres por los hijos. Rara vez se utiliza en obras antiguas, y luego casi exclusivamente como un descriptor de relaciones dentro de la familia. También se sabe expresar mera aceptación o aguantar situaciones, como en "amar" el tirano.
• Storge (Storgé στοργή) significa "afecto" en griego antiguo y moderno. Es el afecto natural, como el que sienten los padres por los hijos. Rara vez se utiliza en obras antiguas, y luego casi exclusivamente como un descriptor de relaciones dentro de la familia. También se sabe expresar mera aceptación o aguantar situaciones, como en "amar" el tirano.
Seis tipos de amor:
Eros implicó una pérdida de control que asustó a los griegos. Los antiguos griegos eran tan sofisticados como los escritores de hoy en la forma en que hablan sobre el amor, el reconocimiento de seis variedades diferentes. Así que lo que eran las seis amores conocidos por los griegos? ¿Y cómo pueden inspirarnos a ir más allá de nuestra actual adicción al amor romántico, que tiene un gran porcentaje de los jóvenes con la esperanza-pero a menudo no-para encontrar un alma gemela única que puede satisfacer todas sus necesidades emocionales?
1. Eros, o la pasión sexual
El primer tipo de amor se eros, el nombre del dios griego de la fertilidad, y que representaba la idea de la pasión y el deseo sexual. Pero los griegos no siempre pensaban en ello como algo positivo, ya que tendemos a hacer hoy. De hecho, el eros era visto como una forma peligrosa, ardiente, e irracional de amor que puede apoderarse de ti y poseerte-una actitud compartida por muchos pensadores espirituales posteriores, como el escritor cristiano CS Lewis. Eros implicó una pérdida de control que asustó a los griegos. Lo cual es extraño, porque la pérdida de control es precisamente lo que muchas personas ahora buscan en una relación. ¿No tenemos todos esperamos a caer "locamente" en el amor?
2. Philia, o profunda amistad
La segunda variedad de amor era filia o amistad, que los griegos valoradas mucho más que la sexualidad base del eros. Philia se refería a la profunda amistad de camaradería que se desarrolló entre hermanos de armas que habían luchado al lado del otro en el campo de batalla. Se trataba de mostrar lealtad a sus amigos, sacrificando por ellos, así como compartir sus emociones con ellos. (Otro tipo de filia, a veces llamado storge, encarnó el amor entre los padres y sus hijos.)
Todos podemos preguntarnos cuánto de esta filia de camaradería que tenemos en nuestras vidas. Es una pregunta importante en una época en la que intentamos reunir "amigos" en Facebook o "seguidores" en Twitter-logros que habría apenas impresionó a los griegos.
Seis tipos de amor Cont.
3. Ludus o amor lúdico
Esto fue idea de los griegos de amor juguetón, que se refirió al afecto entre los niños o los jóvenes amantes. Todos hemos tenido un gusto de él en el coqueteo y las burlas en las primeras etapas de una relación. Pero también vivimos nuestra ludus cuando nos sentamos alrededor de una barra de bromas y riendo con los amigos, o cuando salimos a bailar.
Bailando con los extraños puede ser la última actividad lúdica, casi un sustituto lúdico para el sexo en sí. Las normas sociales pueden desaprueban este tipo de frivolidad adulto, pero un poco más ludus podría ser justo lo que necesitamos para darle sabor a nuestras vidas amorosas.
4. Ágape o amor para todo el mundo
El cuarto amor, y tal vez la más radical, fue el amor ágape o desinteresado. Este fue un amor que extenderse a todas las personas, ya sean miembros de la familia o extraños distantes. Agape tarde fue traducido al latín como caritas, que es el origen de nuestra palabra "caridad". CS Lewis se refirió a ella como "regalo de amor", la forma más elevada de amor cristiano. Pero también aparece en otras tradiciones religiosas, como la idea de metta o "bondad amorosa universal" en el budismo Theravada. Cada vez hay más evidencia de que el ágape es una disminución peligrosa en muchos países. Niveles de empatía en los EE.UU. han disminuido drásticamente en los últimos 40 años, con la mayor caída se produce en la última década. Necesitamos urgentemente reactivar nuestra capacidad para cuidar de uno por el otro.
5. Pragma, o el amor de larga data
Otro amor griego era el amor maduro conocida como pragma. Este fue el profundo conocimiento que se desarrolló entre las parejas casadas a largo.
Pragma se trataba de hacer compromisos para ayudar al trabajo de la relación con el tiempo, y que muestra la paciencia y la tolerancia. El psicoanalista Erich Fromm dice que gastamos demasiada energía en "enamorarse" y necesitamos aprender más de cómo "se destacan en el amor." Pragma es precisamente de pie en el amor-haciendo un esfuerzo para dar amor y no sólo recibirlo. Con cerca de un tercio de los primeros matrimonios en los EE.UU. poner fin a través del divorcio o la separación en los primeros 10 años, los griegos sin duda creo que deberíamos llevar una buena dosis de pragma en nuestras relaciones.
6. Philautia, o el amor del yo
Sexta variedad de amor del griego era philautia o amor propio. Y los griegos inteligentes se dieron cuenta de que había dos tipos. Uno de ellos era una variedad poco saludable asociado con el narcisismo, donde uno se convierte en auto-obsesionado y se centró en la fama y la fortuna personal. Una versión más saludable mejora su capacidad más amplia para amar. Algunos dicen que Philautia es un trastorno de la personalidad. Una persona en este estado psicológico pone de mal humor o se enfurece cuando criticaba o no puede "salirse con la suya", viviendo siempre en el
la ilusión de tener un trabajo más importante, y asociándose únicamente con personas de influencia y poder. La mente nunca está en el presente trabajo, pero siempre en el lado más trabajo "importante". Estoy seguro de que usted conoce a alguien que es igual que este. Lo creas o no es todavía otro tipo de amor, pero también lo es platónico. Ese es el número siete que me negué a cubrir siquiera.
La idea era que si te gusta a ti mismo y te sientes seguro en usted mismo, usted tendrá un montón de amor a dar a otros (como se refleja en el concepto de inspiración budista de
"Auto-compasión"). O, como dijo Aristóteles, "Todos los sentimientos de amistad para otros son una extensión de los sentimientos de un hombre para sí mismo." Los antiguos griegos encontraron diversos tipos de amor en las relaciones con una amplia gama de personas-amigos, familiares, cónyuges, extraños, e incluso a sí mismos. Esto contrasta con nuestro enfoque típico en una única relación romántica, donde esperamos encontrar todos los diferentes amores envueltos en una sola persona o alma gemela. El mensaje de los griegos es nutrir las variedades de amor y grifo en sus muchas fuentes. No se limite a buscar eros, pero cultivar filia por pasar más tiempo con viejos amigos, o desarrollar ludus por bailar toda la noche. Por otra parte, debemos abandonar nuestra obsesión por la perfección. No espere que su compañero que le ofrecen todas las variedades de amor, todo el tiempo (con el peligro que puede dejar de lado una pareja que falla a la altura de sus deseos). Reconocer que una relación puede comenzar con un montón de eros y ludus, luego evolucionar hacia encarnando más pragma o ágape.
Cuatro tipos de amor mencionados en la Biblia:
La Biblia habla de los diferentes tipos de amor. Qué son? ¿Qué clase de amor que Dios tiene en comparación con los seres humanos? (La documentación de soporte de puerta de enlace de la Biblia, en todas las versiones y todos los idiomas)
• Storge Amor
Este es el tipo de amor de la familia que se encuentra comúnmente en la Biblia y es vital para el buen funcionamiento de las familias y, a veces se puede encontrar en familias extensas. Este es el tipo de amor que se encuentra en Marta y María que perdió a su hermano Lázaro. Es el tipo de amor que Abraham tuvo a su hijo Jacob, de esos que Noé tuvo para su esposa e hijos, y el mismo tipo de amor que cualquier padre y madre tiene por sus hijos, así como el amor de los niños por sus padres. Amor Storge también puede ocurrir entre un esposo y una esposa. Parece ser el mismo tipo de amor que los padres de los animales
parecen mostrar a sus crías. Storge es una palabra griega (στοργή) para el amor de la familia y se utiliza con frecuencia para el afecto natural.
• Eros Amor
Este es el amor erótico entre hombres y mujeres, que es un amor sensual. Es aceptable dentro de los límites del matrimonio, pero fuera de esta unión matrimonial, que es visto como pecaminoso y por eso que Pablo dijo a los corintios que "si no pueden ejercer el autocontrol, que se casen. Porque es mejor casarse que quemarse pasión "(1 Cor 7, 9). Este amor es lo que hace que muchas personas, incluso cristianos, en serios problemas, ya que pueden cometer adulterio si no se controla y no se resistió, pueden cometer adulterio del corazón (Mateo 5:28), esto puede llevar a una adicción a la pornografía, y puede convertirse en un ídolo en sí mismo. Aunque este nivel de amor es necesario y saludable dentro del matrimonio, fuera o antes del matrimonio puede ser totalmente destructiva.
• Philia Amor
Este es el tipo de amor que David y Jonatán tenían y era casi tan intensa como lo puede estar fuera del amor que Dios realiza. Estos dos hombres habrían muerto por otro. Este amor produce una unión que eros y amor storge no se puede comparar con. Este es el amor que los cristianos se les ordena tener unos por los otros (Rom 12, 1 Cor 13). Jesús dijo a los discípulos y Él nos dice hoy: "Este es mi mandamiento: que os améis los unos a los otros como yo os he amado. Nadie tiene mayor amor que este, que uno ponga su vida por sus amigos. Vosotros sois mis amigos si hacéis lo que yo os mando "(Juan 15: 12-14). Este amor es muy egoísta y es como el amor, donde los soldados se muestran, mientras que bajo el fuego tratando de salvar a un compañero soldado que es herido, donde en combate un soldado cae sobre una granada para salvar la vida de sus compañeros de armas, y en la que alguien muere o riesgos morir por alguien o para otros con el fin de salvar o proteger sus vidas.
• Amor Ágape
El amor ágape es el amor más supremo de todos y es un atributo de Dios y no es algo natural para los seres humanos. Este tipo de amor es sobrenatural como Jesús mostró en la cruz diciendo "perdónalos porque no saben lo que hacen" (Lucas 23:34). Este amor no es tanto un sustantivo (una cosa), o lo que se siente, pero se muestra por lo que alguien hace. El amor es un verb.it es un action.it es lo que usted hace como Jesús muriendo por nosotros cuando todavía éramos pecadores como resume en Romanos 5: 7-8 "Para uno será apenas muera por un justo, aunque tal vez por un buena persona alguno se atreva a morir, pero Dios muestra su amor para con nosotros, en que siendo aún pecadores, Cristo murió por nosotros ". ¿Cuántas personas conoces o has oído hablar de que murió por sus enemigos? Jesús hizo. De hecho
"Tanto amó Dios al mundo que envió a su Hijo unigénito para que todo aquel que cree en El, no se
pierda, mas tenga vida eterna "(Juan 3:16) y no es un amor que condena pero uno donde" Él vino al mundo para salvar al mundo "(Juan 3: 17b).
pierda, mas tenga vida eterna "(Juan 3:16) y no es un amor que condena pero uno donde" Él vino al mundo para salvar al mundo "(Juan 3: 17b).
Nos dieron el mandamiento más grande de todos, se nos ordena amar. Conclusión por el pastor Jack Wellman.
No es irónico que el mandamiento más importante tiene que ver con love..loving Dios en primer lugar y luego amar a tu prójimo como a ti mismo. . Cuando se le preguntó cuál era el gran mandamiento de Jesús dijo: "Amarás al Señor tu Dios con todo tu corazón y con toda tu alma y con toda tu mente Este es el mayor y el primer mandamiento Y el segundo es semejante a éste:. Amarás a tu prójimo como a ti mismo De estos dos mandamientos dependen toda la Ley y los Profetas "(Mateo 22: 37-40).. Amar a Dios en primer lugar significa que Él ya su Reino (Mateo 6:33) y Su agenda (Mateo 28: 18-20) busca por encima de su propia. Poniéndolo primero, otros después, y usted mismo pasado. De estos dos mandamientos de amor, que es todo el mensaje de la Biblia que esta colgado en (Mateo 22:40).
Jesús nos dio a todos un mandamiento nuevo y esto le dio Juan 13: 34-35 "Un mandamiento nuevo os doy: que os améis unos a otros:. Como yo os he amado, así también os améis unos a otros En esto todos la gente sabrá que sois mis discípulos, si os tenéis amor los unos a los otros ". Se nos manda a amar a los demás como Jesús nos ama! Eso es una orden muy alto y que podemos hacer en nuestra propia fuerza humana. Jesús dijo que si tenemos este amor por el otro, "todas las personas (perdidos y salvados) sabrá que [nosotros] somos [sus] discípulos." Si los demás no ven amemos como esto, entonces no se creen que somos de Cristo. Es así de simple. Juan entendió esto cuando escribió "El que ama a su hermano permanece en la luz, y en él no hay tropiezo. Pero el que aborrece a su hermano está en tinieblas y anda en tinieblas, y no sabe a dónde va, porque las tinieblas han cegado sus ojos "(1 Juan 2: 10-11). Lo que Juan está diciendo es que si decimos que amamos a Dios pero odia a su hermano, estás mintiendo a ti mismo ya los demás y usted no es un discípulo de Cristo y "las tinieblas han cegado [sus] ojos". Es incompatible decir que amas a Dios y trata a su hermano o hermana con desprecio. Eso es hipocresía en su más alto!
Dios amó tanto al mundo, y este amor nunca se muestra en un más magnífico y agapé-forma que en la cruz. Jesús murió por nosotros cuando todavía éramos pecadores, feos, malos y horribles todavía Su enemigo (Rm 5, 8) y que es la clase de amor que se muestra y demuestra por su
acciones y eclipsa por completo todas las otras formas de amor, incluso el amor humano, philia. El amor es mucho, mucho más que un sentimiento, es un trabajo, en movimiento, lo activo, orientado a la acción. No es lo que usted dice o siente tanto como lo que haces. ¿Se arrepentirá de hoy y la confianza en este Dios que
que amabas tanto para enviar el santo, sin pecado, Salvador a morir por ti? Si no, entonces la ira de Dios todavía está en ti (
que amabas tanto para enviar el santo, sin pecado, Salvador a morir por ti? Si no, entonces la ira de Dios todavía está en ti (
Juan 3: 36
b) y serás para siempre aislado del amor de Dios, de una vez para siempre y sin posibilidad de redención (
Apocalipsis 20: 11-15) .
DIFFERENT TYPES OF LOVE
FOUR TYPES OF LOVE:
The Greek language distinguishes at least four different ways as to how the word love is used. Ancient Greek writer's has four distinct words for love: agápe, éros, philía, and storgē. However, as with other languages, it has been historically difficult to separate the meanings of these words when used outside of their respective contexts. Nonetheless, the senses in which these words were generally used are as follows:
• Agápe (ἀγάπη agápē) means love in a "spiritual" sense. In the term agapo, which means "I love you" in Ancient Greek, it often refers to a general affection or deeper sense of "true unconditional love" rather than the attraction suggested by "eros." This love is selfless; it gives and expects nothing in return. Agape is used in the biblical passage known as the "love chapter," 1 Corinthians 13, and is described there and throughout the New Testament as brotherly love, affection, good will, love, and benevolence.[2] Whether the love given is returned or not, the person continues to love (even without any self-benefit). Agape is also used in ancient texts to denote feelings for one's children and the feelings for a spouse, and it was also used to refer to a love feast.[2] It can also be described as the feeling of being content or holding one in high regard. Agape is used by Christians to express the unconditional love of God for his children. This type of love was further explained by Thomas Aquinas as "to will the good of another."
• Éros (ἔρως érōs) is "physical" passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. Romantic, pure emotion without the balance of logic. "Love at first sight". The Modern Greek word "erotas" means "intimate love." It can also apply to dating relationships as well as marriage. Plato refined his own definition: Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself. Plato does not talk of physical attraction as a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, "without physical attraction." Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to seek truth through the means of eros.
• Philia (φιλία philía) is "mental" love. It means affectionate regard or friendship in both ancient and modern Greek. This type of love has give and take. It is a dispassionate virtuous love, a concept developed by Aristotle. In his best-known work on ethics, philiais expressed variously as loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality, and familiarity. Furthermore, in the same text philos denotes a general type of love, used for love between family, between friends, a desire or enjoyment of an activity, as well as between lovers.
• Storge (στοργή storgē) means "affection" in ancient and modern Greek. It is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Rarely used in ancient works, and then almost exclusively as a descriptor of relationships within the family. It is also known to express mere acceptance or putting up with situations, as in "loving" the tyrant.
• Storge (στοργή storgē) means "affection" in ancient and modern Greek. It is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Rarely used in ancient works, and then almost exclusively as a descriptor of relationships within the family. It is also known to express mere acceptance or putting up with situations, as in "loving" the tyrant.
Six Types of Love:
Eros involved a loss of control that frightened the Greeks. The ancient Greeks were just as sophisticated as today’s writers in the way they talk about love, recognizing six different varieties. So what were the six loves known to the Greeks? And how can they inspire us to move beyond our current addiction to romantic love, which has a large percentage of young people hoping—but often failing—to find a unique soul mate that can satisfy all their emotional needs?
1. Eros, or sexual passion
The first kind of love was eros, named after the Greek god of fertility, and it represented the idea of sexual passion and desire. But the Greeks didn't always think of it as something positive, as we tend to do today. In fact, eros was viewed as a dangerous, fiery, and irrational form of love that could take hold of you and possess you—an attitude shared by many later spiritual thinkers, such as the Christian writer C.S. Lewis. Eros involved a loss of control that frightened the Greeks. Which is odd, because losing control is precisely what many people now seek in a relationship. Don't we all hope to fall "madly" in love?
The first kind of love was eros, named after the Greek god of fertility, and it represented the idea of sexual passion and desire. But the Greeks didn't always think of it as something positive, as we tend to do today. In fact, eros was viewed as a dangerous, fiery, and irrational form of love that could take hold of you and possess you—an attitude shared by many later spiritual thinkers, such as the Christian writer C.S. Lewis. Eros involved a loss of control that frightened the Greeks. Which is odd, because losing control is precisely what many people now seek in a relationship. Don't we all hope to fall "madly" in love?
2. Philia, or deep friendship
The second variety of love was philia or friendship, which the Greeks valued far more than the base sexuality of eros. Philia concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield. It was about showing loyalty to your friends, sacrificing for them, as well as sharing your emotions with them. (Another kind of philia, sometimes called storge, embodied the love between parents and their children.)
We can all ask ourselves how much of this comradely philia we have in our lives. It's an important question in an age when we attempt to amass "friends" on Facebook or "followers" on Twitter—achievements that would have hardly impressed the Greeks.
The second variety of love was philia or friendship, which the Greeks valued far more than the base sexuality of eros. Philia concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield. It was about showing loyalty to your friends, sacrificing for them, as well as sharing your emotions with them. (Another kind of philia, sometimes called storge, embodied the love between parents and their children.)
We can all ask ourselves how much of this comradely philia we have in our lives. It's an important question in an age when we attempt to amass "friends" on Facebook or "followers" on Twitter—achievements that would have hardly impressed the Greeks.
3. Ludus, or playful love
This was the Greeks' idea of playful love, which referred to the affection between children or young lovers. We've all had a taste of it in the flirting and teasing in the early stages of a relationship. But we also live out our ludus when we sit around in a bar bantering and laughing with friends, or when we go out dancing.
Dancing with strangers may be the ultimate ludic activity, almost a playful substitute for sex itself. Social norms may frown on this kind of adult frivolity, but a little more ludus might be just what we need to spice up our love lives.
4. Agape, or love for everyone
The fourth love, and perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant strangers. Agape was later translated into Latin as caritas, which is the origin of our word "charity." C.S. Lewis referred to it as "gift love," the highest form of Christian love. But it also appears in other religious traditions, such as the idea of mettā or "universal loving kindness" in Theravāda Buddhism. There is growing evidence that agape is in a dangerous decline in many countries. Empathy levels in the U.S. have declined sharply over the past 40 years, with the steepest fall occurring in the past decade. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about for one another.
The fourth love, and perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant strangers. Agape was later translated into Latin as caritas, which is the origin of our word "charity." C.S. Lewis referred to it as "gift love," the highest form of Christian love. But it also appears in other religious traditions, such as the idea of mettā or "universal loving kindness" in Theravāda Buddhism. There is growing evidence that agape is in a dangerous decline in many countries. Empathy levels in the U.S. have declined sharply over the past 40 years, with the steepest fall occurring in the past decade. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about for one another.
5. Pragma, or longstanding love
Another Greek love was the mature love known as pragma. This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples.
Pragma was about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance. The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said that we expend too much energy on "falling in love" and need to learn more how to "stand in love." Pragma is precisely about standing in love—making an effort to give love rather than just receive it. With about a third of first marriages in the U.S. ending through divorce or separation in the first 10 years, the Greeks would surely think we should bring a serious dose of pragma into our relationships.
Another Greek love was the mature love known as pragma. This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples.
Pragma was about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance. The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said that we expend too much energy on "falling in love" and need to learn more how to "stand in love." Pragma is precisely about standing in love—making an effort to give love rather than just receive it. With about a third of first marriages in the U.S. ending through divorce or separation in the first 10 years, the Greeks would surely think we should bring a serious dose of pragma into our relationships.
6. Philautia, or love of the self
The Greek's sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was an unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where one becomes self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love. Some say that Philautia is a personality disorder. A person in this psychological condition sulks or rages when criticized or is unable to ‘get their way’, living always in the
delusion of having a more important job, and associating only with people of influence and power. The mind is never on the present job but always on the next more ‘important’ job. I’m sure you know someone who is just like this. Believe it or not it’s still another type of love, but so is Platonic. That is number seven which I refused to even cover.
The Greek's sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was an unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where one becomes self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love. Some say that Philautia is a personality disorder. A person in this psychological condition sulks or rages when criticized or is unable to ‘get their way’, living always in the
delusion of having a more important job, and associating only with people of influence and power. The mind is never on the present job but always on the next more ‘important’ job. I’m sure you know someone who is just like this. Believe it or not it’s still another type of love, but so is Platonic. That is number seven which I refused to even cover.
The idea was that if you like yourself and feel secure in yourself, you will have plenty of love to give others (as is reflected in the Buddhist-inspired concept of
"self-compassion"). Or, as Aristotle put it, "All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself." The ancient Greeks found diverse kinds of love in relationships with a wide range of people—friends, family, spouses, strangers, and even themselves. This contrasts with our typical focus on a single romantic relationship, where we hope to find all the different loves wrapped into a single person or soul mate. The message from the Greeks is to nurture the varieties of love and tap into its many sources. Don't just seek eros, but cultivate philia by spending more time with old friends, or develop ludus by dancing the night away. Moreover, we should abandon our obsession with perfection. Don't expect your partner to offer you all the varieties of love, all of the time (with the danger that you may toss aside a partner who fails to live up to your desires). Recognize that a relationship may begin with plenty of eros and ludus, then evolve toward embodying more pragma or agape.
Four Types of Love Mentioned in the Bible:
The Bible speaks of different types of love. What are they? What kind of love does God have in comparison to humans? (Supporting documentation from The Bible’s Gateway, in all versions, and all languages)
• Storge Love
This is the type of family love that is commonly found in the Bible and is vital to the proper function of families and can sometimes be found in extended families. This is the type of love found in Martha and Mary who lost their brother Lazarus. It is the type of love that Abraham had for his son Jacob, the kind that Noah had for his wife and children, and the same kind of love that any father and mother has for their children as well as the children's love for their parents. Storge love can also occur between a husband and a wife. It appears to be the same type of love that animal parents
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seem to display for their young. Storge is a Greek word (στοργή) for family love and frequently used for natural affection.
• Eros Love
This is the erotic love between men and women which is a sensual love. It is acceptable within the confines of marriage but outside of this matrimonial union, it is seen as sinful and why Paul told the Corinthians that "if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Cor 7:9). This love is what gets many people, even Christians, into serious trouble because they can commit adultery if left unchecked and not resisted, they can commit adultery of the heart (Matt 5:28), it can lead to an addiction to pornography, and it can become an idol in itself. While this level of love is necessary and healthy within marriage, outside or before marriage it can be totally destructive.
This is the type of family love that is commonly found in the Bible and is vital to the proper function of families and can sometimes be found in extended families. This is the type of love found in Martha and Mary who lost their brother Lazarus. It is the type of love that Abraham had for his son Jacob, the kind that Noah had for his wife and children, and the same kind of love that any father and mother has for their children as well as the children's love for their parents. Storge love can also occur between a husband and a wife. It appears to be the same type of love that animal parents
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seem to display for their young. Storge is a Greek word (στοργή) for family love and frequently used for natural affection.
• Eros Love
This is the erotic love between men and women which is a sensual love. It is acceptable within the confines of marriage but outside of this matrimonial union, it is seen as sinful and why Paul told the Corinthians that "if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Cor 7:9). This love is what gets many people, even Christians, into serious trouble because they can commit adultery if left unchecked and not resisted, they can commit adultery of the heart (Matt 5:28), it can lead to an addiction to pornography, and it can become an idol in itself. While this level of love is necessary and healthy within marriage, outside or before marriage it can be totally destructive.
• Philia Love
This is the type of love that David and Jonathan had and was about as intense as it can be outside of the love that God displays. These two men would have died for one other. This love produces a bond that eros and storge love cannot compare with. This is the love that Christians are commanded to have for one another (Rom 12; 1 Cor 13). Jesus told the disciples and He tells us today, "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you" (John 15:12-14). This love is very unselfish and is like the love where soldiers display while under fire trying to save a fellow soldier who is wounded, where in combat a soldier falls on a grenade to save the life of his fellow soldiers, and where someone dies or risks dying for someone or others in order to save or protect their lives.
This is the type of love that David and Jonathan had and was about as intense as it can be outside of the love that God displays. These two men would have died for one other. This love produces a bond that eros and storge love cannot compare with. This is the love that Christians are commanded to have for one another (Rom 12; 1 Cor 13). Jesus told the disciples and He tells us today, "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you" (John 15:12-14). This love is very unselfish and is like the love where soldiers display while under fire trying to save a fellow soldier who is wounded, where in combat a soldier falls on a grenade to save the life of his fellow soldiers, and where someone dies or risks dying for someone or others in order to save or protect their lives.
• Agape Love
Agape love is the most supreme love of all and is an attribute of God and does not come naturally to humans. This type of love is supernatural as Jesus displayed on the cross saying "forgive them for they know not what they do" (Luke 23:34). This love is not as much a noun (a thing) or what is felt but it is displayed by what someone does. Love is a verb.it is an action.it is what you do like Jesus dying for us while we were still sinners as summed up in Romans 5:7-8 "For one will scarcely die for a righteous person-though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die-but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." How many people do you know or have you heard of that died for their enemies? Jesus did. In fact
Agape love is the most supreme love of all and is an attribute of God and does not come naturally to humans. This type of love is supernatural as Jesus displayed on the cross saying "forgive them for they know not what they do" (Luke 23:34). This love is not as much a noun (a thing) or what is felt but it is displayed by what someone does. Love is a verb.it is an action.it is what you do like Jesus dying for us while we were still sinners as summed up in Romans 5:7-8 "For one will scarcely die for a righteous person-though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die-but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." How many people do you know or have you heard of that died for their enemies? Jesus did. In fact
"God so loved the world that He sent His only Son that whoever would believe in Him should not
perish but have everlasting life" (John 3:16) and it is not a love that condemns but one where "He came into the world to save the world" (John 3:17b).
perish but have everlasting life" (John 3:16) and it is not a love that condemns but one where "He came into the world to save the world" (John 3:17b).
We were given the Greatest Commandment of all, we were Commanded to Love. Conclusion by Pastor Jack Wellman.
It isn't ironic that the greatest commandment is all about love..loving God first and foremost and then loving your neighbor as yourself. When asked which was the greatest commandment Jesus said "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets" (Matt 22:37-40). Loving God first means you seek Him and His kingdom (Matt 6:33) and His agenda (Matt 28:18-20) above your own. Putting Him first, others next, and yourself last. On these two commands to love, it is the entire message of the Bible that this hangs on (Matt 22:40).
Jesus gave us all a new commandment and this was given John 13:34-35 "A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another." We are commanded to love others as Jesus loves us! That's a very tall order and one that we can do in our own human strength. Jesus said that if we have this love for one another, "all people (lost and saved) will know that [we] are [His] disciples." If others don't see us love like this then they won't believe we are Christ's. It is just that simple. John understood this when he wrote "Whoever loves his brother abides in the light, and in him there is no cause for stumbling. But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes" (1 John 2:10-11). What John is saying is that if you say you love God but hate your brother, you're lying to yourself and others and you are not a disciple of Christ and "the darkness has blinded [your] eyes." It is irreconcilable to say you love God and treat your brother or sister with contempt. That is hypocrisy at its highest!
God loved the world so much and this love was never displayed in a more magnificent and agape-way than on the cross. Jesus died for us while we were still ugly, hideous, wicked sinners and still His enemy (Rom 5:8) and that is the kind of love that is displayed and proven by His
actions and completely overshadows all other forms of love, even human, philia love. Love is much, much more than a feeling it is an active, working, moving, action-oriented thing. It's not what you say or feel as much as what you do. Will you repent today and trust in this God Who
loved you so much to send the holy, sinless, Savior to die for you? If not, then the wrath of God is still on you (John 3:36b) and you will be forever cut off from the love of God, once and for all time and with no chance of redemption (Rev 20:11-15).
loved you so much to send the holy, sinless, Savior to die for you? If not, then the wrath of God is still on you (John 3:36b) and you will be forever cut off from the love of God, once and for all time and with no chance of redemption (Rev 20:11-15).
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